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Is Social Media becoming too personal?


Recently I received an email from Rae, asking my thoughts on women posting personal information about their relationships on social networks.

Rae’s Question:

XayLi, I am an avid reader of your blog for a while now and I love what you are doing. Recently my sister went through a break up with her boyfriend and she wrote about the entire episode on all of her social media. I tried to stop her because, some people thought she was stupid, others felt really bad for her and some got really tired of it all. So my question to you is: Is Social Media becoming too personal? What do you feel about this?

My response:

Hi Rae! First, I want to thank you for writing and asking me my opinion on this topic. You expressed that you have been following my blog for a while now and I also wanted to say thank you for that.

As for your question, I personally am really not a big fan of using social networks to outwardly express one’s most intimate feelings. Especially where a relationship is concerned. It saddens me (and depending on the extent, is sometimes extremely annoying) when a woman has been posting about how awesome her significant other is and what he does for her. And then one day it all stops, then you realize that she is posting from the other end of the spectrum, where she is no longer in the wonderful place that she was a few weeks/months/years ago. She becomes bitter and begins posting things about how much he has hurt her. She also begins posting about or sometimes to him (her significant other) or to the new person he is now involved with. She may even begin posting about her deep hate for the person she once was deeply in love with.

Situations like this happen everyday on some of our timelines as users of social media. The words and expressions that were once saved for the confines of a journal are now written publicly for the world to see. This has taken away most of some people’s personal privacy as now we are even exposed to knowing when a person is using the bathroom. Sideline: (Ugh. Am I the only person that really Hates seeing those posts of pictures of when guys are broadcasting their “polo” underwear around their ankles while using the restroom. Like really?!?) Sorry about that, back to business.

Please don’t get me wrong. People are entitled to express how they feel about situations. After all you are reading my blog (which is a mashup of things that do also involve my feelings). We are all human and we may all at some point express certain things on our own timelines that we may have been better off not sharing, but getting all into the nitty gritty of personal situations is what I personally do not agree with. A FaceBook friend should never be able to write a accurately detailed book about your personal life or relationship with others, based on what they have learned about you on your timeline.

Yes, Social Media has exposed us to more than we would like to experience at times. However, lately we do also have an influx of positive quotes, pictures and memes etc. which do help to counteract some of the crazy things we read via other people. Let’s do things like we used to and call someone close to us when we have issues with people or even call that person themselves. Please folks being real is definitely cool but, there is no need to let the whole world into your bedroom windows. We’re not all perfect but Don’t you agree?

Hey Rae, I hope you can talk to your sister about this and I really do hope that everything works out in the best way for her.

Guys, Email me with your own questions at XayLi@byxayli.com I’ll be happy to hear from you!


Katlynn Simone, Beautiful Lie

You know I’m always finding new cool artists that I absolutely have to share with you guys! I always leave them in the Music Category of the blog. But here’s this new awesome artist Katlynn Simone. I heard this song on “The Game” and I just had to research it and find it! I am so in love with this song Beautiful Lie!

Let me know what you think about it. Rock on.


ORS Hair Repair Invigorating Shampoo!

Hey guys!!!! Lets Talk hair again! Every now and then my hair gets too accustomed to whatever I’m using and I have to switch up my hair regime. Last week this inspired a trip to my local CVS so that I could switch back to my favorite shampoo, which is ORS Olive Oil Creamy Aloe Shampoo.

No matter what happens I always go back to this shampoo. I love the smell, the creamy texture, and the way my hair feels long after the wash. I guess the creamy aloe aspect of this mixture really works!! At CVS however, much to my dismay they were completely out. My next choice was to try the ORS Hair Repair Invigorating Shampoo. I was a bit skeptical about trying it out and even contemplated waiting until I was able to get my Aloe Shampoo from somewhere else. But! I took that leap of faith and bought it and I was glad I did!

Photo Jun 10, 7 21 36 PM

This Shampoo has the same consistency as my creamy aloe love, but it has mint infused into it!!! Heaven! The tingle is so sensational. And one of the real perks about this shampoo is that its Sulphate free. Sulphate Free Shampoo does not irritate the scalp. You can find more info about it HERE

The lather is amazing also! My hair is absolutely loving this shampoo! Might be my new fav! Thanks ORS!


Styled By X: Summer Starter

Hey folks!! Summer is here!! Long days are back and Gladiator Sandals are all it’s about right now!!


I had so much fun putting this outfit together!!

1. High waisted shorts are this summer’s must haves!

2. I always stress a great pair of aviators should be in every closet!

3. ACCESSORIZE!!! I cannot stress this enough!! It’s a must!

4. ACCESSORIZE!!! Lol. Statement rings are in!!

5. Patterned shirts!

6. Gladiator Sandals!! And these are true beauties. Worn with shorts they lengthen the legs.

7. Pastels are also very in this summer! So make sure you have your peaches, and mints.

8. Confidence is key! Make sure when you strut, you strut strong. Put some pep in your step.


All About Hari! (Just in case you missed it)

This is a #BeatByXayLi Post that I transferred from one of my older Blogs!! Loved this Experience. You can book a #BeatByXayLi makeover photo shoot with me by emailing me at byxayli@gmail.com ! This one was done Approximately a year ago! Enjoy!!

Who is this Mysterious Gem?


Hari Marie was Born and raised in Brooklyn, NY. She was brought up by two of the most inspiring people, her parents both hailing from the twin islands of Trinidad and Tobago . She most definitely had an interesting upbringing. Her mother, a very intelligent, beautiful, and independent woman, always taught her to utilize her creativity and never settle for less. Her father, the first entrepreneur in her family taught her organization and conviction.

Like most, she found her true career passion during her college years. Although she was majoring in economics her interests were almost always taken up by her extra curricular affairs.

Her cousin who is one of biggest female promoters in the Caribbean, NY community needed assistance in executing her events, and this is when Hari found her true calling. She was almost always needed in major decisions and her opinions were most appreciated. That was the time Hari decided that event planning is not only something she was naturally great at, but something she would absolutely love to do.

With her parents guidance and encouragement she graduated St Francis College with a BA in Economics and a minor in Finance. Following in her fathers footsteps, She would like to some day start her own Event Planning company; producing weddings, corporate events and more.

True Story:

I began by shooting some before pictures of Hari, where her innocence is really very evident. (she is such a sweet girl).


45 minutes later She was #beatbyxayli and her innocent smile was replaced with a seductive snare. (She even stuck her tongue out at us. LOL)


We spent a few minutes putting her clothing together and finally I was able to fine tune her entire outfit and prep her for shooting. We climbed up to the roof in the dark 45 degree NYC weather and captured some dope shots up there.



We got some awesome shots! I’m no professional photographer but we had lots of fun!

(I kept this photo especially because it shows how deep of a person Hari is.. I see her face three different times in this photo. Can you?)




We even got back into the house and shot a few white wall portraits.



We switched outfits and had some lobby fun too!!




All in all I had so much fun transforming this LondonGyal it was unbelievable. She was truly a gem throughout the entire process….


From beginning to end!!


You can find Hari Marie in the background and sometimes forefront, assisting with the planning of many NYC Caribbean Events (she is a very hard worker). But you can also find her as @Hari Marie on Instagram and Twitter!!

Hari Marie is definitely #LondonGal approved!


Styled By X. (Ray)

If you know me, you know that I am hardly ever on FaceBook, and that sometimes I am so busy that I can be the hardest person in the world to contact at times. Luckily a few nights ago I was up at around 4 am, going through my crazy email inbox and I saw that one of my classmates from all the way in Trinidad was inboxing me about getting a photo shoot done. I was instantly excited! She had seen a previous Makeover Shoot that I had posted and wanted to get one done herself!

I immediately got to work trying to fit her into my schedule, especially since she would only be in the US for a few days. I began creating and prepping her outfit and such being that we also had limited time to shoot.I love creating original stuff as we all know, so I wanted to make sure that the majority of her outfit was Designed By ME! XayLi! I had her figured out on my mannequin (whose name is Hillary btw) before she even got here.

Isn’t she a doll? Meet Rachel. Here I have provided a before picture (left) and after picture (right) of her getting pampered by me. I provided black and white photographs so that your vision would not be hindered by the colors in each photo. Just true beauty.

After fixing her a lovely cocktail, she began to relax and I was able to carefully whizz through doing her makeup, hair and getting her into her outfit. Seeing someone this excited about how different they look when I have completed their styling is one of the greatest joys that I get from doing what I do. I love inspiring women, and capturing the moment of creating a comfortable and confident individual. (I’m not a professional photographer *im working at it though*, but that moment is so precious.. that not catching it would be a sin).

We had fun shooting for a while. My how time flew!

I had so much fun introducing her to the other side of herself.

She even really started modeling! I absolutely loved it!

Although we were pressed for time we decided to switch up her outfit a bit. This outfit was created By Me also. I had fun creating this hand painted, studded skirt. (items like these can be purchased by sending me an email also at lgstyleonline@gmail.com)




I thoroughly enjoyed this shoot! I hope she did also!

If you are interested in being #BeatByXayli you can email me at ByXayLi@gmail.com for affordably priced packages. See some of you guys soon!



These are my Erykah Badu Earwings by BabaG!! I’ve been getting so many questions about these earrings, so I decided to do a post on them of course.

These earrings are totally sturdy and comfortable. They are well crafted and can last a very long while if handled with care. They are not heavy and are very unique!! I first came about these earrings like everyone else may have, on the lovely Erykah Badu (love her). And I absolutely had to have them. Fast forward to now, while perusing online I saw them again and the flame of love was reignited! After a tedious search, I was finally able to find them on www.richgirlscloset.com (lovee richgirlscloset tooo!!)




They came quickly and in no time I was getting compliments like crazy. Go get yours!!


Pretty Peplum

Recently I had a client that was a bit curvy and she was concerned with concealing her mid section in her dinner outfit. This is where a peplum dress would save the day. This style of dress would maintain a stylish, sleek, sophisticated look with the illusion of not a trace of a pouchy stomach. I was able to find some very simple but effective examples at Topshop.

This Black dress would be perfect for the purpose, as black is known to be a slimming colour.


This colour blocked dress however is for the person that is not too worried about their midsection as the lighter colour on the dress may do the injustice of highlighting a pouch. (I absolutely love this dress)


Just for fun I also decided to find some shoes that would go with both dresses.

These shoes can be worn with the black dress.


These Black booties would be lovely with some opaque tights!!


Some minimalist Jewelry (diamonds are a girls best friend) would be perfect. And some Red lips!! Hair pulled back into a classy bun at the nape of the neck, and Don’t forget those smokey eyes!!


And this HeadBand which can be found at Nordstrom is to die for.

I can go on and on creating this look. But it’s wayy past my bedtime :(. Goodnight Folks.